October 25, 2015
She was a woman who could never see anything good in other people. No matter who did what she always found fault with it. Let someone perform a kind deed, she would find a bad motive. Her favorite expressions were: “He must have an angle…what’s he getting out of it?” She found fault with everyone. We all have this woman’s bad habit in us to some degrees, don’t we? To her credit, she realized that this faultfinding was filling her life with fears. She consulted a psychiatrist. He helped her very little.
One day she heard the story of Jesus curing the man born blind. The truth hit her hard: she was blind, blind to the good points in others. She was brave enough to face this fact and change her way of looking at others.
No doubt Jesus cured the man who was physically blind to show that he could also cure the spiritual blind. In fact, spiritual or mental blindness is even worse than physical blindness. This type of blindness affects many of us. Every one of us must ask the question: “Am I blind to the goodness in others?” If we are, then we must call out to Christ to heal us, like the blind man in the Gospel.
The best place to start is right in our own homes. Your wife forgot to sew the button on your shirt. Instead of concentrating on this failure, think first of the many good things she has done that day for you and your family – cooking, cleaning, washing, taking care of the children. Your husband forgot to take out the garbage. That is not the end of the world. Think how he works for you and your children all day long.
Boys and girls, you need to think of the good things your parents have done for you, rather than the times when they limited your allowance or driving privileges or the hour they want you home.
Follow this practice of dwelling on the good others are doing instead of their faults in regards to teachers and students in schools, with regard to pastor and parishioners, in dealing with your club members and your fellow workers. Your boss, for instance, can’t be all bad. That worker can’t be entirely useless. Open your eyes to the good points. Think about them. Talk about them.
Seeing the good in others is one way of loving others. Love is not negative. I can’t love someone by saying: “I’ll never think unkindly about you, or I’ll never do anything unkind to you.” That is not love. Love is positive. “I will go out of my way; I will make a special effort to think and speak and act kindly toward you.” A big by-product of this practice of looking for the good in others is a sense of happiness, a feeling of contentment.
To see the good in others we need spiritual power, yes, some sort of miracle. Christ will work that miracle for us if we ask him, especially in connection with the powerful action of the Holy Mass. Let us pray with the blind man one more time: “Lord, let me see again.”